This is a subject I have written about on a few occasions, mostly documenting my experiences as I decided to grow it but mostly as i love confidence and the idea that it can constantly be improved on. What made me see that I needed to gain confidence? I believe it was becoming single after a long term relationship. Having that time alone to evaluate where I was going next in life, I realised that I had never really pushed myself out of my comfort zone, there started my little mission.
I pushed myself into situations that I never thought I would be able to do, the modelling, public speaking, starting this blog, going for a full meal alone, finally getting the balls to go to a gym class and even wearing my hair in vintage styles for work. Whilst some of these might seem small to some, they were massive milestones to me. I had always thought of myself as someone who ‘doesn’t give a fuck’ what others think, I clearly did.
I personally think confidence is the key to success. One small boost can change your whole day and outlook. It is something that we all have inside of us, if we choose not to listen to our inner critic that seems to shout that we can’t do something.
You can’t do that for a career
You can’t have your hair like that
You can’t wear that top
You can’t sing/dance/paint etc.
We are our own worst enemy and while we sit back and criticise ourselves for what other people may think, do or say about what truly makes us happy..those people we are worrying about are actually getting on with their own lives. This seems to be the case as we start getting a little bit older and (hopefully) wiser, our goals and aspirations start to change and we fear what others might think. On a personal note, I used to always think about other people’s views on my career. Those people who only knew me as a party girl and a total mess, I always thought they would judge my ability to do my job. Now I couldn’t care less what they think as I am not that person anymore and those days of being a mess and ruining my life 5 days of the week are thankfully long gone. As you evolve as a person, you start to attract and create new friendships, ones that compliment and mold with your new personality and are on your wave length.
I love seeing how people change over time and become more confident in themselves or starting little business ventures. Everyone is becoming a lot more open to the possibilities out there or creating them and are more accepting of people being ‘different’ or ‘weird’. It’s so much better to embrace what makes us all unique than to turn into the idealistic and unrealistic model that society seems to create.
Ignore that inner voice, push yourself into the unknown and get a little boost of confidence. Do that course, learn how to yodel, go to that convention, wear those embarrassing shoes that you think are cool. Don’t live your life for everyone else, or yours might just pass you by quicker than you expect.